Nairobi, Kenya Christmas is a wonderful time of the year when families and friends get together. If you went home to your parents with your wife, do not be surprised to find out that she wants to go back to the city or wherever the two of you live sooner. Here are a few reasons why that could be the case.
Being judged for everything
Perhaps you married someone your parents or family did not approve of. For that, she may be judged for just about everything. This is something that will make her uncomfortable, thus the need to leave your home sooner. The best thing you can do as a husband is understand her discomfort and support her.
Expected to be the help
People can be nasty. That we cannot pretend. When your wife is expected to be the help, and perhaps she does it to avoid confrontation, you can be sure she won’t want to stay longer at your parent’s place.
Even if she is the type that likes to do house chores, you do not want to see your wife slaving herself off to impress your family. Volunteering to help out does not mean doing everything while others sit comfortably on the couch.
Dislike from some family members
If some of your family members do not like your wife for whatever reason, she will not want to spend much time at your place this Christmas. Some women are lucky enough to get married in families of love but the reality of this world is that not everyone will like you.
Questions about having a child
When you have been married for a few years and have not been blessed with a child, society tends to point the finger at your woman. When your parents are constantly asking for grandchildren, your wife will be uncomfortable and might not want to spend much time at your folks’ place. No one wants to be continuously asked why they are not pregnant.
Pretending to like everyone
Eating together at a big table and sharing memories during the Christmas holidays is wonderful. Nevertheless, families are not perfect and it is possible not to like everyone for whatever reason. Perhaps it is how they talk to you or treat you. But, it is not hate.
So, sometimes a person has to pretend to like everybody during the holidays. This might be why your lovely wife might want to leave sooner after spending Christmas Day at your parents’ place.
It is not her comfort zone
Being around your in-laws can cause anxiety for various reasons. Maybe, your wife really wants to impress your family and she is willing to do everything to fit in. Who wouldn’t want to be liked? Sometimes we want to impress people so much that we put up with a lot.
So, yes, she may want to get back home sooner because she is more comfortable there and does not have to go the extra mile to fit in.
When your wife is in a hurry to get back to the city after spending Christmas at your parents’ place, do not be judgmental. She could have valid reasons and understanding her could help your relationship instead of forcing her to stay longer or getting angry.
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